Institution of Marriage in Islam
The word marriage or pairing with the opposite sex is the foundation of human life. It is the concept of “I” to “Us” and in a calm and safe marriage is a reality of “Us” to “Him” as the creator of all of us. Marriage means the productive unity of a couple in what He the Al-Mighty, prescribes to us. In Quran it is said, “Marry those among you who are single and unwedded ones. If they are in poverty, God will give them means out of his grace. The Holy Quran 24:32
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّـهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
Working and thinking together makes life easy and pleasant. If your family life is sufficient with means of living, is calm and pleasant; and my family life is the same, then our community will be prosperous and pleasant. The expansion of this kind of community makes the world calm and pleasant. The Holy Quran 30:21
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
And among His Signs is this, which He created for you mates from among yourselves, whom ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إ ِصْلَاحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا
“If you fear a breech between them, twain appoint two arbiters one from his side and one from hers. If they wish for peace no doubt solution of the problems lies in the guidance of our Creator.” Usually the arbitrator will listen carefully and ask both parties to write their problems, he/she as arbitrator must judge based upon Quranic order. If both sides are the followers of His order, and since there is no dispute in His order of the heaven above, then why should there be a dispute amongst the families who are the product of that heaven above?
Imam, Manassas Mosque